So a few weeks back I read Dear John by Nicholas Sparks, I started the novel thinking that it would be another typical Nicholas Sparks brand, cheesy romance story. To be honest in some ways my skeptisisims were proven to be right. However this novel is more than just a cheesy romance story, for some people it may actually help them a lot. I personally found refuge in this book and I feel that only after reading this book I truly did move on from a break-up that was roughly 3.5 months ago.
The type of love that is the main underlying idea in this novel isn't the typical 'two-characters-fall-in-love-and-have-a-hot-steamy-relationship' type love. But instead I believe it is love in its purest form. It can be explained through a simple quote from the novel; love meant that you care for another person's happiness more than your own, no matter how painful the choices you face might be. Ofcourse many will say that this type of love is nothing new, however how many of us can honestly say that we've experienced or lived by such type of love remains a question.
The novel starts off with John reminiscing about his past as he watches over the woman that changed his life. The reader is then taken through a journey into John's past. The most important part of his history is naturally is meeting Savannah. I won't bore you with the details of the novel as that is something that I think most of you would like to find out for your selves, instead I will just go over briefly what happened and get to my point.
Savannah and John meet purely through chance and their relationship has helped both of them grow. I am terrible at explaining plots so I'll leave the rest for you to read and find out but I just feel that I have to share this book as I believe it's a book that can help anyone overcoming a break up from a long distance relationship. It helps people view the issue through multiple points and it allows a couple to understand each other a bit more. I personally felt that perhaps if I had read this book way before the break-up then perhaps I would still have a realationship, but ofcourse that wasn't the case and instead of causing me to lament my loss all over again, this novel helped me see things that I either couldn't or didn't want to see.
Love probably has different meanings to different people, for me it used to mean knowing that I'm with someone that I can share my life with, feeling safe, hoping it would last forever, putting each other at the top of the priority list, and lastly sticking with one another no matter what. Clearly this was one of the most stupidest ideas I've had as love really isn't that. It shouldn't require constant reminders, it needs to be genuinely felt, and perhaps the type of love described in this novel is one of the more purer forms of love. I don't think I could have done what John did for Savannah, I wish I could but I'm not sure if I would be able to. I do have a long way to go, but without this novel that lesson would've come a lot later in my life and most likely after another series of regrettable actions. So I recommend this novel to everyone, it may be a boring read at times and it certainly is cheesy at other times. But overall it teaches a good lesson to everyone and it allows us to see something we've either all been blind to or have been avoiding.
Savannah and John meet purely through chance and their relationship has helped both of them grow. I am terrible at explaining plots so I'll leave the rest for you to read and find out but I just feel that I have to share this book as I believe it's a book that can help anyone overcoming a break up from a long distance relationship. It helps people view the issue through multiple points and it allows a couple to understand each other a bit more. I personally felt that perhaps if I had read this book way before the break-up then perhaps I would still have a realationship, but ofcourse that wasn't the case and instead of causing me to lament my loss all over again, this novel helped me see things that I either couldn't or didn't want to see.
Love probably has different meanings to different people, for me it used to mean knowing that I'm with someone that I can share my life with, feeling safe, hoping it would last forever, putting each other at the top of the priority list, and lastly sticking with one another no matter what. Clearly this was one of the most stupidest ideas I've had as love really isn't that. It shouldn't require constant reminders, it needs to be genuinely felt, and perhaps the type of love described in this novel is one of the more purer forms of love. I don't think I could have done what John did for Savannah, I wish I could but I'm not sure if I would be able to. I do have a long way to go, but without this novel that lesson would've come a lot later in my life and most likely after another series of regrettable actions. So I recommend this novel to everyone, it may be a boring read at times and it certainly is cheesy at other times. But overall it teaches a good lesson to everyone and it allows us to see something we've either all been blind to or have been avoiding.
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